What happens when you lose someone?

Losing someone you love is difficult for everyone. People deal with death and loss differently.

You can't shield your child from the grief they might experience, but you can help them feel heard and safe. By allowing and encouraging your child to express their feelings during this difficult time, you're helping them build healthy coping skills for life.

What can grief look like for my child?

Grief is a profound experience at any age. Children who are grieving may feel deeply sad, lonely, or numb. Like adults, children in mourning often feel helpless, and they may worry that their painful feelings will never ease.

Be gentle with a grieving child, both when they're experiencing obvious distress and when they seem to be feeling better. Experiencing periods of relief is a normal part of the grieving process, and it doesn't mean the child has forgotten about the loss or isn't taking it seriously.

When should I start a conversation with my child about losing a loved one?

Loss can be heavy on the heart, and it helps to have support through the situation. As soon as you identify a loss, start a conversation with your child right away.

How can I prepare for a conversation about the loss of a loved one?

Dealing with a loss is difficult for adults, too. If you're managing your own loss while helping your child with theirs, you may need additional support. Make sure you prepare emotionally and mentally so you can help your child as well. Get help.

How can I start a conversation with my child about the loss of a loved one?

Ask your child how they're feeling about the loss. If they struggle to talk about it, acknowledge that “it's hard to talk about losing someone,” and ask if something specific is making it especially difficult to talk about.

What should I expect during a conversation with my child about the loss of a loved one?

Don't rush the conversation or be frightened if your child starts crying or becomes angry or upset. This behavior is expected. Allow them to express themselves fully.

What are good next steps after talking to my child about the loss of a loved one?

Ask your child who, if anyone, they feel comfortable talking to about the loss. Ask if certain people or situations are especially hard to deal with because of the loss.

On a lighter note, remind them that holding on to good, beautiful memories is also a way to keep that person or figure close to their heart.

How can I get help?

Losing someone can be difficult. Make sure you have the support you need to process and deal with your emotions.